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themindislimitless:

I’ve never been to a white-people wedding before. They seem very exotic, and I’d love to go to one!　

#this is what you sound like when you talk about desi weddings being exotic

Do you see how ridiculous it sounds now when you say our weddings are ~exotic~?

I feel like words today, so I wanna explain a bit:

Look at the reblogged post. It seems ridiculous to say that white people weddings are exotic, right? You see how saying that makes it sound as if all white people have the same sort of wedding? When, obviously, they don’t! White people who get married… they come from all different sorts of backgrounds. They come from different cultures, different religions, and different regions/countries/states/etc - all these things affect the sort of wedding celebration they will have!

Similarly, Desi people don’t all have the same sort of wedding. Some of ours are just the same as yours (except sometimes we wear different clothes). Desi people come from more than one country. We come from different religions. Some of us live outside our home countries, in places like the UK or the USA or Canada or Australia or or or.

And lol those three Indian weddings I have been to? Not significantly more exciting than I figure white people weddings are. The ones I went to in India, I wore Indian clothes just like I always wear there. The one I went to here, in the US, I wore Western clothes. All three were pretty boring. The last was more special because the woman getting married was my aunt. But, you know, that would have meant nothing to you if you’d been there. You have no connection to that wedding/the people involved.

I just don’t see what’s so significantly more cool about church service held in India or Malayalam vs one that’s held in the US or English?

I swear, it’s not that exciting

Obviously, not everyone who is Desi is Christian and will have a church service. But that was my point. We’re not all the same or from the same religions. So if you see one depiction of a Hindu wedding and think we all have that sort of wedding and think we’re exotic and fancy and all have the same traditions… L O L. Our traditions are different from region to region, culture to culture, religion to religion. Just like white people’s.

there’s no monolithic Desi culture that comes with prepackaged wedding to just add water to and enjoy on the day of your Desi wedding

sorry to disappoint

by sorry, I mean not

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wordpainting: So true.

wordpainting:

So true.

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dearcispeople: I understand it may be hard for professors to remember the right name & pronouns, but when I must correct you with every e-mail response, and send you an e-mail after every class (after I remind you during breaks) to please use the right name and pronouns, I begin to think you just don’t care and wish to cause trouble amongst my transphobic classmates. I get death threats after each class because I’m FtM. Does something have to happen to me to make you understand your carelessness is dangerous?

dearcispeople:

I understand it may be hard for professors to remember the right name & pronouns, but when I must correct you with every e-mail response, and send you an e-mail after every class (after I remind you during breaks) to please use the right name and pronouns, I begin to think you just don’t care and wish to cause trouble amongst my transphobic classmates. I get death threats after each class because I’m FtM. Does something have to happen to me to make you understand your carelessness is dangerous?

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dearcispeople: I am not “becoming a man.” I have been a man since the day I was born. What I am is a man with one hell of a birth defect. That birth defect is my entire body. Some cis people have various chromosomal anomalies that result in physical issues. I have a chromosomal anomaly that has resulted in physical issues. My chromosomal anomaly is being born with an extra “x” chromosome and missing a “y” chromosome.

dearcispeople:

I am not “becoming a man.” I have been a man since the day I was born. What I am is a man with one hell of a birth defect. That birth defect is my entire body. Some cis people have various chromosomal anomalies that result in physical issues. I have a chromosomal anomaly that has resulted in physical issues. My chromosomal anomaly is being born with an extra “x” chromosome and missing a “y” chromosome.

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dearcispeople: I really love those of you that are true allies and who are truly supportive. You wouldn’t believe how much it means to me to see a cis person actually fighting for trans* rights and supporting us through and through. Thank you.

dearcispeople:

I really love those of you that are true allies and who are truly supportive. You wouldn’t believe how much it means to me to see a cis person actually fighting for trans* rights and supporting us through and through. Thank you.

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I’m male and…

whoneedsfeminism:

I need feminism because I have a lot of women in my life. I want my girlfriend, mother, sister, step-sister, cousin, friends, and co-workers to live life with the opportunity to be whoever and do whatever they want without fear of harassment, discrimination, or judgment.

AND I need feminism because am just as constrained by gender norms as women are.

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